Always a Bridesmaid

In January, I’ll be a bridesmaid in my best friend’s wedding. I’ve been a bridesmaid a number of times in my 28 years, and I can honestly say that I love it. It’s a great honor, and I really enjoy being a part of a good friend / family member’s day in that way.

Of course, there’s one thing about being a bridesmaid that has always been incredibly stressful to me:

THE DRESS.

In my experience, everything surrounding the bridesmaid dress is the exact opposite of fun. For each wedding I’ve been in – even my own – I was quite fat, and always the biggest of all the girls.

My friends are wonderful, and each bride has always attempted to pick out a dress that will be flattering on all of the bridesmaids, but let’s face it: Something that is flattering on a size 4 is unlikely to look good on a size 24, and vice versa. It’s a tall order, for sure.

Getting fitted for the dress has always been torture. When you’re over a certain size, they don’t generally have samples in every style that you can just try on. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever had that luxury. I’ve always had to get measured and hope that the size that comes in more-or-less fits, and then pay for extensive alterations (don’t get me started on that racket…).

Today was different though.

I went to David’s Bridal to order the dress for my friend’s wedding. They asked what size I wear in a jean, which is currently a 12, and then skipped off to get me the dress my friend picked out in a 12.

I was taken aback, to say the least.

Even though I’ve done this a number of times before, this was a completely different experience. And even though I know that I have lost a significant amount of weight, it still didn’t occur to me that I would just be able to try on the dress in my size.

I tried on the size 12 dress. I went to look in the mirror in the common area (so weird that the dressing rooms themselves have no mirrors) and was pleasantly surprised – I looked pretty good! (Except for my massive calves, but I like to think that’s all muscle…)

Right next to me was a high school girl who was trying on dresses for some fashion show. She was actually a size 0. ZERO. And even though I’m clearly much bigger than her, I still felt good about myself.

And get this: The 12 was a little big. I then tried on a 10, but that was a little small. I was tempted to order the 10 anyway, because I’m hoping to lose weight between now and then, but I’m not willing to risk ruining my friend’s wedding based on good intentions (as much as a bridesmaid not having a dress that fits can ruin a wedding, that is). So I got the 12, and I’ll have it altered down to where ever I am at the end of January, which hopefully will be more like a 10 anyway.

It still surprises me how different things are – even little things like buying a dress that’s already picked out for you – for big girls and small girls (or medium girls, as I like to think of myself now). Something that caused me loads of stress 3 years ago was simple, and almost pleasant, now.

Incidentally, shopping for a bridal gown when I was planning my own wedding was so upsetting that I ended up buying my dress off the internet. It turned out better than I could have imagined, but that’s something a thin girl would never have to do.

It’s definitely better being a medium than a 3X.

3 Responses to “Always a Bridesmaid”

  1. South Beach Steve Says:

    Kimberly, this is one of those times you will remember forever. It is this kind of thing that really makes us happy we decided to do this. Congratulations on an awesome non-scale victory!

  2. South Beach Steve Says:

    Kimberly, this is one of those times you will remember forever. It is this kind of thing that really makes us happy we decided to do this. Congratulations on an awesome non-scale victory!

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